Friday, July 19, 2019

Her smile

My Mom would have been 85 today.  I wonder what she would have been like as an 'old woman.'  My grandma (her mom) lived to be 93 and boy, she was something.  The meanest old lady you would ever meet - but that's another story for another day.  My Mom was heading down that road so I can only imagine.  She'd snap at you for the littlest thing and boy could she hold a grudge.

It's funny because after Mom died, I had lots of people tell me they remembered her smile.  She had such a nice smile they'd say.  She was quiet and always smiling.  I even found someone on Facebook that I hadn't seen in years.  When I told her my Mom had passed, she said the first thing she saw in her mind was her smile.  And she did have nice straight, pretty teeth.  What they didn't know was she was very hard of hearing.  She'd often just stand there silent and smiling because she didn't know what the conversation was about!  And she'd often look to me to "translate" when a question was directed her way.

Why didn't my kids get her teeth!? 

What's funny is that I don't remember her smiling much at home.  I remember her being mad!!   Sometimes she wasn't really mad, but it was just the tone she was spoken to by her mom so it was what she knew.  She was often mad about something or at somebody.  She yelled a lot and slammed cabinet doors.  If anyone crossed her, she'd get even.  You might not know it was her, but she'd find a way to even the score.  I can only imagine the mean old lady she would have become.  It seems the older we get, the less nonsense we have the patience for.  I guess I will be a mean old lady someday too.

Also, in just a few days it will be 11 years since she passed.  It doesn't seem like it could be that long already.  Sometimes it's still hard to believe everything that happened happened and she is forever gone. 

Happy heavenly birthday, Mom.... miss you. 


  1. She does have a lovely smile!!
    It's funny how we remember our parents; good, bad or otherwise.
    Both of my parents were very flawed people, but they were what I knew too. I just lost my Mom 4 years ago and I miss her terribly. I lost my dad when he was 52; I was 24....I often wonder what kind of 'old man' he would have been. Probably not a 'nice' one. ;)
    Big hugs to you.

  2. She does have a beautiful smile!
    It is hard to comprehend sometimes that our loved ones are gone forever.
    My father has been gone for five years now, and I still sometimes think about calling him.

  3. Beautiful post, Mel.

    My mom is 94 this year but we lost her to dementia about 5 years ago. She is a very different person now - nasty, difficult and suspicious. It pains us to see her like this and sometimes it gets really hard to be with her.

    Your mom had the prettiest smile!

  4. She was pretty. My mom has been gone 11 years also. She was born in 1929. I really do miss her, especially during holidays.