Saturday, June 06, 2020

Is The Change TMI?

Well it appears the change is here.

Ladies, you know what I'm referring to.  THAT change.  (Maybe TMI for this blog??  But most of us are ladies... so.... )

There have been times in the past few months years when I've felt like I'm just radiating heat. Just burning up.  I don't sweat much (never have) so that probably doesn't help the situation.  Sleep?  Ha. Broken sleep.  Awake for hours.  Hot.  Cold.  Hot. Cold.  Just awake for hours for no particular reason.  Then I feel so annoyed and aggravated for little to no reason at all. Tired, so tired.  Can't function tired or can't think tired.  And other issues that are TMI that I won't mention here.  I've been saying for months  years  that my hormones must be very out of whack.  Turns out I'm not crazy after all.

I had my yearly lady doctor visit this past week and she ran labs which say that I'm past the point of no return.  I was a little irked because at my appointment, she tried to blame it on my thyroid or perhaps a cyst (??) because I'm "only 47."   A couple of years ago (I was 44/45) at my yearly visit, we had a talk about my symptoms and I thought IT was coming and she implied I was too young because the average age for menopause was 51. "You're not quite there yet."  In April 2019 we had the same talk and the same doc told me come back if symptoms got to where I couldn't stand it.  She did not run any labs, so I've been just riding this out for a while now.  It was really bad (to the point that I couldn't stand it) earlier this year during the lock down.  The more I think about it, I'm kinda peeved that she just let it go rather than investigating it further back when I was 44/45. I think back to all the times I have felt unwell/off and now I wonder if this was why.  It should have been simple lab work done along with the other well visit labs so nothing more than another vial of blood.  Did she really totally miss that I've been in perimenopause for the past 3-4 years??  Not that it would have changed the outcome but it would have been nice to know what was really going on with me. 

While I expected the news my hormones weren't up to par, I didn't expect to be told I am in total menopause and I didn't expect to feel this sad about it.  TMI I just had a cycle after skipping several months and the exact words from the nurse were that should not happen anymore. (?)  So confused. It's not like I planned on having any more babies.  I guess it's just a big realization I'm getting older and feeling sad that part of my life is behind me.  I don't know if that makes any sense or not. Or if again, it's just the hormones.


8 comments:

  1. Hello! And I am glad you posted about this. We should feel comfortable talking about it among ourselves. I am sorry this happened to you. It is so confusing, isn't it? I am not a doctor...not even close. But my experience began when I was 39. My blood work should premenopause then. We were blessed with Flynn when I was 40, and then I began to feel the change! Mine was mostly emotional, as I developed anxiety more severe than I had ever felt before. My cycles were very irregular. It is my understanding that once you go 12 months without a cycle, you are considered to be done. And yes. It is ok to feel sad. It is a chapter in our lives closing. But once you get through it, you will find relief. Promise! : )

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    1. Thanks for taking the time to share your experience, Billie Jo! I know I'm not alone in this. I always heard it had to be 12 months also. I just had a cycle in May?! But the nurse I spoke to said I should not be having any more. Time will tell.

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  2. It would have helped, I think, if you had found out sooner than later. There are supplements out there that might have helped with some of your symptoms and made life more bearable.

    I was fortunate in that I never had a lot of major symptoms with the change. I had the hot flush but not flash if that made sense where I would get hot but I wouldn't have night sweats, etc like some women did. Usually I would put my head in the freezer for a minute and it would be relieved.

    Yep I get you with the sleep. That became an issue during those ages but then I also had a less than perfect teen so I lost sleep over that too.

    Make sure you protect your bones, vitamin D and the like, since without those hormones and the like supplements are needed to make sure there are no fractures down the line, etc.

    At the end of it all, its nice not to have to deal with the monthlies. But it is a milestone. It does bear a little grieving with it.

    betty

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    1. Thanks, Betty. Appreciate you sharing your experience as well. This too shall pass! I know I'll be okay.

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  3. I'm 48 and I've been pre menopausal for the past year. It's so much fun!! Haha. Feeling hot and the night sweats are the worst for me. I've been using a supplement that you drop a few drops in a bottle of water that seems to help. Of course I cant remember the name. I'll let you know later .

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    1. Hi Leslie, thanks for the comment! Yes, please do let me know the name of it if you can. This is a roller coaster for sure.

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  4. I've had friends who were perimenopausal at 39, so who cares what the average age is, she should have been testing you. Goodness.

    I'm 52 and still going through the peri-part for about 2 years, although I'm 99 days late; the longest so far so maybe I'll be done in another 265 days?

    The emotional part comes and goes for me; somedays I would just be so irritated with everyone and everything. The hot flashes were a bear for a while and I was taking Dong Quai Root to assist with that.
    I've been having broken sleep for a few years....but, recently I started taking Serovital and I've not had a hot flash and my sleeping has improved. I read reviews where some people had side effects, but so far my energy has been up and I'm feeling good overall. It is expensive, but I got it on sale from Costco and I figured if I hated it I could return it.

    I hope you continue to learn and see what works for you. Did you Dr. advise for you to take any hormones or supplements?

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    1. Thanks, Suz. I hear you on feeling irritated!! I just sit in silence often when one of the kids are going on and on about something and I just want quiet, lol! It's not them - it's me. I'm feeling a bit better about the whole thing now that I've had a few days. Dr gave me Prometrium to try for 3 months to see if it helps any. Can't really tell a difference yet, but I'll give it some time.

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